Hello!

Yesterday we organized a birthday party for my 5 years old daughter and 7 of her friends, in a public park near our house. We were there with the 8 children, my husband and me. I had done models before and I really enjoyed it, thanks to my intentional thought! That was amazing.

When we came back home, I looked at the pictures to send them to the parents and couldn’t find “good” pictures to send. My husband took the pictures. I wanted to send pictures which look like the pictures other parents sent during other birthday parties and I thought our pictures were not good enough, or that the parents would be mad to see what we had done (kids climbing in the tree, or kids eating cake on a “messy” tablecloth on the grass).

And in the middle of the night I woke up worrying about the way the kids had to pee during the party. I went with the kids to the public toilets which are very dirty to my opinion, with no soap, or behind a bush. I mean, this is what we had at disposal, I couldn’t make a proper toilet appear with a magic wand. I had cleaned theirs hands with hydro alcoholic gel. I had taken soap and a towel with me in the park but I had forgotten it when we went to the public toilets (there was a lot to think about and I forgot it).

I couldn’t sleep, ruminating about having it over and over again.
I was comparing the toilets of my parties with the toilets of other people parties. And “my” toilets were terrible.
But when people go to this park, they use the same toilets that I did. There is no other way.

UM
C the friends of my daughter using public toilets or peeing behind a bush
T I shouldn’t have done that
F worry
A ruminate, judge myself, judge the party, judge my way of organizing the party, compare “my” party with “other parents” parties, put the blame on me, don’t sleep
R I’m overly hard over myself

C pictures of the party
T the other parents will think we are really bad at organizing parties
F shame
A don’t send the pictures, criticize myself, criticize the party, compare myself and the parties
R I end up thinking we were bad and that the party was not good enough

IM
C the friends of my daughter using public toilets or peeing behind a bush
T everyone does it
F neutral
A don’t overthink it, find evidences
R I don’t take personally the blame for things I can’t control

C pictures of the party
T It’s ok not to have the same pictures
F neutral
A don’t overthink it, send a few pictures, make “sending some pictures” my dare of the day (from the “self-confidence” course)
R I’m not overly harsh on me

C pictures of the party
T Our pictures are good enough
F self confidence
A select a few pictures, accept I evaluate them as being B- pictures, write a note, send them to the parents
R I complete my “dare of the day”

Thanks a lot for your feedback!!