Boss coaching and reactivity teaching

Here is my thought model about my boss
C – patient who needs a procedure and trying to convince the team

T- stop telling me what to do I am capable
F defensive
A say – I got this
R feel guilt

C – patient needs a procedure trying to convince the team
T she is trying to be helpful- her delivery isn’t perfect but she means well
F accepting and open
A listen and hear her
R happy to be a part of the team

Also I have noticed I’m much more easy to react without filtering since successfully stopping buffering with food and wine the last 2 months- is this normal – how do I stop it?