Boundaries


Recently a coach answered one of my questions saying “A boundary is only in play when physical or emotional danger is present. Really ask yourself if you were in emotional danger here. You can decide that you were if you’d like, but do so because you truly believe you need to protect yourself”
I’ve listened to a few of Brooke’s podcasts on this which seem to have a wider viewpoint. example: She told her friend that was consistently late “You can be late if you want, but if you’re more than 15min late, I will not be there”. That is a healthy boundary that has nothing to do with being in physical or emotional danger so I’m confused by the above response. If my friend or family member continuously does not follow through on plans I can choose not to make plans with that person moving forward as a boundary or ask them to reschedule in the future (even though the answer might be no which is ok) Thoughts?