boundaries 2.0

so i listened to the podcast again. loved it.
and i went through the questions and i’ve found out that when i say no it goes with a lie or an excuse because i don’t want other people especially new people think i’m lazy or don’t like them.

and i’ve also found out that i want people to want to do things with me and if they say no to my invitation i’m mad because they have sabotaged plans i had (which were really fun in my head) haha
and i get offended and jealous because they like to do something else instead of being with me.

how can i cope with that?

thanks so much.