My boyfriend doesn’t talk much.
I know he loves me and wants me to be happy, but talking more isn’t something that is in his nature.
We have been together for 11 years now, and most of the time I focus on the good things in our relationship and remember 50/50.
The problem is that the way I connect with people is through talking and having a conversation.
I recently spent 2 weeks with my family. 4 days with my sister, 4 days with my brother, and the rest of the time with my parents.
We talked all the time. Some serious topics, some light-hearted fun things it was wonderful.
Now I am back home with my boyfriend and I feel really sad and lonely. Then I feel bad for wanting conversation and connection when I know it’s not something he can do.
I am a coach and pretty skilled at getting people to open up and talk, but none of it works with him.

C: Boyfriend doesn’t talk much
T: I feel lonely
F: Sad
A: Avoid doing things together where a conversation is more usual, like going out for dinner and eating at the dinner table at home (because that makes me feel more lonely)
R: I feel sad and lonely