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Follow up from past coaching:

In what specific ways can you treat yourself as a person of worth?

I can take care of myself by caring for my body, belongings, and living space. I can rest when I need to and allow myself time off. I can eat well and get enough exercise. I can speak up when people are doing things in my space that I don’t prefer. I can cultivate healthy relationships with others. I can forgive myself and others for being imperfect. I can recognize my positive qualities and things I accomplish. I can continue to learn and grow. I can allow myself to contribute to others and to my professional environment and recognize myself for doing so.

Start to notice your thoughts on how humans should be treated. Do you believe that some are worthy of love and being treated well and others are not?

Ultimately, I think all humans should be treated well. But I observe that not all people are treated with the same kindness and respect. I notice in social situations that some people are listened to without being interrupted, are given consideration for seating, being served, and asked questions. Other people are ignored, interrupted, and argued with. Some people are more likely to be hired for a job, accepted for an apartment or home application, and have multiple people who want to be their life partner. Others don’t enjoy these privileges. I’ve often perceived myself to be on the bottom socially, but in hindsight, I don’t think that is true at all.

How can you daily offer yourself the kindness of celebrating yourself and recognizing your worthiness?

I think I need help with this one. I don’t think I am worth celebrating right now. I’m on my own a lot, my relationship is a mess, and I feel sad and angry. I have a lot of things that I want in my life. I feel disappointed in myself a lot, and I don’t feel like being around people too much, because I don’t want to be rejected. I don’t feel like this all the time, but it’s extra poignant right now because I’ve been feeling sick and I am struggling with a relationship with someone who doesn’t appreciate me.