Boyfriend wants to know if i’m going to move in with him – Feeling pressure


I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. Things are going pretty well, for the most part. He is getting ready to sell his house. His original plan was to downsize from a 3 bedroom to a 2 bedroom. However, he mentioned if I move in with him maybe that’s going to be too small.

I am 50 years old and have lived with 4 guys in my lifetime and the relationships haven’t lasted very long after we have moved in together. I learned a lot over the years and never thought in terms of marriage but now I am wondering if I should be. I am a little scared to bring it up. But do I want to get married? I don’t know.

Here are some models I am working with:

C: My boyfriend wants to know if I’m moving in.
T:  I have other things I want to focus on and don’t want to think about this right now but he needs to know if he’s looking for a house for just himself or both of us.
F: Rushed to make a decision
A: Avoid talking about it and worry
R: Reeling nervous and indecisive

C: My boyfriend wants to know if I’m moving in with him.
T: I could move in with him and be able to afford a separate studio space to work out of
F: Interested
A: Think of studio space possibilities
R: Some ideas

C: My boyfriend wants to know if I’m moving in with him.
T:  I can share my indecisive thoughts with him and make my decision after I see how he reacts
F: Nervous but feel it may lead to a quicker solution
A: Have a conversation instead of avoiding
R: Will know more to make a decision