I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He truly is a great guy with some very out of the box ideas at times. We enjoy a lot of the same things but lately, I mean since starting self coaching 2 months ago, my thoughts are questioning our relationship.
I don’t know if it is me or if he is changing. I questioned him if he was depressed, he said no. I can just see the scarcity and negative outlook on life from him in HUGE letters now. Maybe because I finally found happiness within myself.
I want to change the way I feel about him, but am struggling with it. I don’t understand the way his mind works now. He says yes, when he want’s to say no. He buffers so he doesn’t have to do anything around the house. He thinks people in general are bad. He never looks on the bright side, everything is negative. I use to be able to let it go when he says or does something but lately I can’t. I have done the model on several different circumstances but I can’t resolve this. My mind always goes back to “do I want to be with someone so negative” “why is he so stubborn” “I truly don’t understand him at all”
I know how to solve this problem with the model, but I am super stuck on this one.