Brating myself up

Recently listening to your podcasts i have become kore aware of pattetns seeug them first inothers and observing them in muself. Recently an old work colleague who i was still friendly with cut me off in terms of contact without tellibg me why but inpresume ad she is verybinvolved inbher grand childrens life and i amnless so and kore focussed on myblife and travel it is a clash of manuald so to speak. This is of course entirely her perogative. The reason why i am feeling so hurt about this, i think, is not so much what she did to me but my realisation of me having done the same to others and realising through my own feelings how they might have felt. I feel i am a very judgmental person so quick to jump to conclusions and slow to forgive. Help!!