Thank you for your extremely helpful and insightful response. In answer to the question why I am choosing to think his thoughts about breast size are more true than his thoughts about me being sexy and hot, the reason is because I also have an underlying thought/belief that I am not good enough for my partner and I think I subconsciously try to find evidence of that. I discovered this belief when I first started scholars and it was eye-opening. I have been practicing new thoughts such as “I chose him, he chose me and we make an amazing team together”, “We each have different strengths and weaknesses”. And I do believe these thoughts but clearly his comment about loving big breasts triggered that old deep-rooted belief that I’m not good enough. Any tips?