I have identified lots of unhelpful thoughts that I have about my husband:

I didn’t sign up for this.
He let me down.
He’s disgusting.
He’s not pulling his weight.
He’s a bad influence on my daughter.
We aren’t well matched.
My mom was right about him.
He’ll never learn.

And thoughts about myself:

I was a fool to marry him.
I deserve better than this.
Maybe I’m not even capable of true love.
I don’t love him.

We’ve been to marriage counseling and read books about improving our marriage and all the thoughts they suggest are out of reach. My brain is not accepting them. What are some bridge thoughts I could think? Is that the right tool? Or do I need to do more emotional processing?