Can I make myself be attracted to someone?


Hi Brooke,

I’ve met a great guy and we have been dating for a few weeks. He’s fantastic and we get along really well and have fun. The problem is that I don’t feel attracted to him. Is it possible to make myself feel attracted to him? How would I do that and do you recommend it? Ideally, I’d like to find someone that is a great guy like him and who that I’m also attracted to but I’m having a hard time finding that.

I know that you would probably say attraction is a “choice” but I am having hard time with it if I’m just not feeling it. Is it something I can choose? I’ve never done this before so this is very unfamiliar territory to me.

Thanks!