Hello,

I would like to get your feedback on 3 models I have been drafting about a situation I am experiencing. I am having difficulties building my R-line in a way that proves the T- line, in a way that would underline in a powerful way what I am creating for myself.

Thanks for your feedback and inputs!

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C-My father has scheduled a golf game with my boyfriend- My mother will be looking after Camille (my boyfriend’s son)
T-We are not following the family rules that we have been discussing 10 days ago (mum needs time off)
F-Disoriented / mixed-up
A-I observe how much I feel uncomfortable about us not following the rules / respecting the needs of each other, my head is bending, I am withdrawing into myself, I am not able to think of something else, I am not present, I am in spirale, I am with my emotion but I am trying to find a solution, not processing it
R-I am not following the rules that I told myself in such situation

C-My father has scheduled a golf game with my boyfriend- My mother will be looking after Camille (my boyfriend’s son)
T-Mum offered to look after Camille only because there was no other alternative/she felt forced to
F-uncomfortable
A-I am looping with the 2 conversations we had about the golf game and who would be taking care of Camille, mom was there but did not offer her help. I am making these 2 sitautions mean mum was not willing to look after C. initially and eventually accepted because the game was confirmed. I am upset at my father to have invited my boyfriend, I am upset with my boyfriend since we had a conversation about unloading my mother with tasks/taking care of kids.
R-I feel even more upset and uncomfortable with the situation

C-My father has scheduled a golf game with my boyfriend- My mother will be looking after Camille (my boyfriend’s son)
T-my boyfriend doesn’t think it is a problem to leave Camille on his own/ leave him under my mother’s responsibility
F-Disconnected
A-I am imagining the conversation I could have with my boyfriend to show him how much he is wrong, I am playing out other situations on which we are not aligned, I am boiling, my thoughts are running at full speed, I am not connnected to the present moment, I try to figure out a solution to fix this situation
R- I make the problem bigger

I don’t want to look at this situation as not being a problem