Hello Scholars,

I am having a hard time handling my emotions with a situation around food involving my step-son, I have done a couple of models (below)
I would be curious to hear your thoughts about my R-lines, are they clean enough, can I go a bit further?

C-My 9 year old step-son says “I don’t like when pasta are re-warmed, I don’t want to eat them” – end of dinner time: his father throws away the pasta
T-Step-son knows very well how to manipulate his father
F-Frustrated/Irritated
A-I am looking at my boyfriend with a look of judgment – not from a “team” place
I spiral and ruminate on how much I think my step-son has power over his father, on how father is giving up too quickly, and on how much power father is giving to his son by doing that
Thinking I know best/ if we were trying differently that would work better
Judging my boyfriend
Judging step-son for playing with that power
Judging we are not helping step-son here, we are perpetuating the idea for the kid that he has authority on what he will be eating
Not in a place of compassion with my boyfriend
Not focusing on what is actually in my control
Not allowing the emotion of frustration & irritation
Resisting to the idea that kid has power over his father
R-I am running my energy over something I have no power of as a step-mother , I am creating disconnection with my boyfriend & step-son for some times, I am emotionnaly tied up in this situation

C-My 9 year old step-son says “I don’t like when pasta are re-warmed, I don’t want to eat them” – end of dinner time, his father throws away the pasta
T-Renaud (father) is not handling this situation the appropriate way
E-Frustrated / Boiling
A-I am judging my boyfriend for letting his son having power over him when it comes to food
I am in spiral with thoughts like “I would know best” “we should try something different”, “If I had authority over my step-son I would go a different way”
I am ruining my own time & energy
I am not behaving as a team with my boyfriend,
I am not offering my compassion and my love
R-I am giving a lot of power to the situation – I am not controlling what’s in my hands

C-My 9 year old step-son says “I don’t like when pasta are re-warmed, I don’t want to eat them” – end of dinner time, his father throws away the pasta
T-I have to let my boyfriend handles this situation on his own
E-Ambivalent feelings
A-I am anticipating all the different situations when he will be trying something different or doing the same thing with his son, and I will be judging him
I am not confident I am not going to interfere, say, do something
I am not trusting myself I will support him whatever he does, tries with his son
anticipating judgments
anticipating negative feelings
Resisting the situation & the negative feelings coming along
R-I am not trusting myself I am ready to let go off this situation – I keep wanting to have power over this situation