Career and self worth

I have been noticing that my self worth is connected with doing well in my career. I am going through a plateau right now due to my own self-doubt issues and life stage of motherhood. I am constantly thinking about catching up on my career, doing different things to succeed in the future and playing a patience game. However, in this process I forget to be present and enjoy moments with my family. How do I break the cycle of constant rumination about my career and using it to make me happy or unhappy. It feels like my career has cast a spell on me!