Changing the past.

I am working through the “change your past” book and have two questions.

1. In the story about my past I want to believe I have the thought “my mom was trying her best” but I just don’t believe that. Should I work to try to believe that? If so how?

2. I am having trouble with the model below. I feel like identifying the feeling is hard for me, so I’m not sure shame is right.

C – 5 month old cried for approx 30 minutes yesterday
T – I’ve damaged him by misreading his signals
F – shame ???
A – beat myself up, feel inadequate, like I shouldn’t be around home, regret actions, think about how I didn’t handle it better
R – ?? Be a more distant parent? This doesn’t feel right though