Checking my model on over drinking


Hi, I have this goal to stop over drinking and I feel that the more I want this to happen the more I drink. It seems as if I am on a sabotage journey. I start planning at the beginning of the week and then stop planning and then I drop the ball completely and binge. I did this model today and wonder if you could help me go further than this? My compelling reason is very clear to me. I have the tools, yet I do not apply them.

Default Model

– C: Yesterday afternoon at friends. I drank 6 glasses of white wine
– T: I am a compulsive drinker and will never manage to stop overdrinking
– F: Shame
– A: I overeat when I come home, I am self critical towards me and my body. I imagine that I will die of cancer and this will be my fault. I add a feeling of guilt . I am not talking nicely to myslef, I tell myself horrible things, I do not reflect on why I drank all those drinks
– R: I create resistance to learn from my failure and stop overdrinking

Intentional Model
– C: Yesterday afternoon at friends. I drank 6 glasses of white wine
– T: I know exactly what I need to do next time: Plan and follow the plan even if my brain does not want to
– A: I do a thought download about what happened to learn from this experience, I make a plan for the whole week, I encourage and cheer myself up, I am kind towards myself and my body.
– R: I take this failure as an opportunity to really grow and reach my objective