I need help with a model.

C- I have clothes that were worn yesterday by my kids scattered in each of their rooms, kids toys that have not been cleaned up, beds not made this morning and dirty dishes filling the sink.
T- I like having a clean house but why do I need to clean all this every morning
F- Frustrated
A- I list a number of ways kids and husband not cleaning up after themselves , punish my kids when they come home, feel vengeful
R- ?

I guess when I am frustrated while I am doing all this and making myself miserable I am still cleaning up as I like a clean organized house. But I want to not feel frustrated about having to spend 15 mins cleaning up . How can I think to do so? I want to see what the above model  results in so I can make that switch to ” I am choosing to clean up as I don’t REALLY HAVE to”.