I found ashes in a cup in the bathroom.
C- ashes in bathroom
T- So many. Let me pick one. He doesn’t care even enough to cover it up
F- anger
R- withdrawal – afraid to address now. Waiting until calm down

C- ashes in bathroom
T- it is possible he is under stress thus using cigars
F- i am enabling him
R- look for a more believable T

C- cigar ashes in bathroom
T- i am sad and curious about this
F- BS. I am pissed
R- try another model

C- cigar ashes in bathroom
T- everyone has vices/ kids would be so upset(they hate smoking)/ He is a bad example
F- Augh. Too much in T
R- new model

C- cigar ashes in bathroom
T- hey love, it is totally okay that this bothers you. I know you are scared and thats understandable
F- tearing up, feeling alone
R- tension leaving body. Gonna process and allow fear and sadness and revisit this later

I think i answered my own question in writing this but would love some feed back. Thanks!