Thank you for your response, Brooke.
You ask: You don’t want him to be a better lover?
My answer: I am several years past that point. I am not only not interested in having intimate touch with him, but the thought of us kissing or touching in my mind seems inappropriate at this point. As if he was an uncle or something.
So in my heart of hearts I don’t care if he will be a better lover because I am not attracted to him anymore and maybe I’ve never been.
Then you ask: Do I want to have great sex with my husband?
My answer: No. I don’t want him to touch me at all. I physically cringe over it.
Now what do I do with that? Suddenly the whole discussion not became about coaching him at all…