Cognitive dissonance on sexual relationship, or rather wanting to be a sex coach and not having sex


My husband and I have been together for 21 years and we were very sexually active when we were younger. As we got older and I started a program of study that required about 14 hours of study a day, our sexual activity waned. After we had our first child he was diagnosed with severe anxiety and bipolar 2 disorder and our sex life came to a screeching halt. It has since been sporadic with sexual intercourse once or twice every two months, when previously we had sex weekly. I am now in CCP and have always had a special interest in sex and intimacy. Let me be clear, I have continued to have strong sexual interest and drive, but my husband has decreased in desire according to him. He claims he desires me, but just doesn’t desire to have sex much. He says he is frustrated by this. He is currently on antidepressants and medication for anxiety and medication for insomnia. I feel/think I am a fraud for wanting to be a sex and intimacy coach while I do not have sex very often. I am faithful to him, but frustrated by the situation. When I think of starting my business, I feel very much like an imposter as if I have no special knowledge or right to be a sex and intimacy coach.

C: I have sex about once every two months
T: No one would want a sex and intimacy coach who has such infrequent sex.
F: Embarrassed

Here is where I lose the model and wonder if it is dissonant to want to be a sex and intimacy coach and have infrequent sex, if I truly am an imposter, if I can serve my proposed population well. I wonder if it is merely a fantasy to want to make a business as a sex and intimacy coach work with my history.