For years I have had the problem of compulsively needing to eat comfort food (ice cream or alternatives) after socializing. Often in the middle of conversations with others I will imagine comfort food. This happens when I feel emotionally disconnected from other people. Happened last night. Do I use the model on it?
Circumstance: Social situation where I can’t connect as I wish, can’t feel as close as I want to, can’t feel fulfilled emotionally
Thought/image: ? I need comfort food
Feeling: Very lonely, more disconnected
Action: Get comfort food as soon as I am out of here
Result: Overeating, weight gain, negative memory of socializing
Do I need to change how I relate to social situations here? Is this CTFAR OK?
Circumstance: Social situation where I can’t connect as I wish, can’t feel as close as I want to, can’t feel fulfilled emotionally
Thought/image: I am connecting at just the right level for this situation right now. I will connect deeper at another more appropriate time.. I can love as deeply as I want no matter what or when.
Feeling: Relief
Action: Be in the moment
Result: No negative consequence to socializing, no compulsive eating