If it’s up to me to create my results with my thoughts and if I desire to have a better sex life with my husband is it then up to me to create the action to make it happen? Or would it be both of us? Wouldn’t I have a conversation about this with him first? If I don’t have a conversation about it with him, then according to the model it’s all up to me?!
Sometimes I fully understand the model, when I need to work on my thoughts. But when it comes to intimacy/sex…well it can’t just be me working on it, right? We should communicate? Like where does the phrase “ communication is key to a successful marriage “?