So! This happened today and I could use some help with this model. Especially setting a better intentional model so feelings of inadequacy don’t come up when I compare myself to taller, thinner women…

[Unintentional]
C: I saw a woman walking ahead of me and my husband who was taller and slimmer with longer legs than me. *
T: I was feeling good about my body and now I feel like shit.
F: Inadequate
A: I feel bad about my body. **
R: I hate myself. I reinforce the thought that my 5’3 frame is “short and stocky”.

[Intentional]
C: I saw a woman walking ahead of me and my husband who was taller and slimmer than me. *
T: There are a lot of different body types in the world that are beautiful. ***
F: Enough
A: I love myself.
R: I move on with my life. I take great care of my body. I feel better about myself.

*I know my circumstance might not sound objective, but she really was taller and slimmer with longer legs than me. 😉

**Not sure what to put in the action line here? I just felt bad about myself. It decreased my self-confidence. It didn’t otherwise change my actions that day.

***I believe this/it’s believable, but maybe I believe her body (tall and slender whereas I’m 5’3 and not overweight by any means, but not as slender) was more beautiful than mine?