Every time I talk to my husband about concerns or how I feel, he says I’m complaining. In my mind, I’m discussing issues so we can try and solve them. I’m very solutions-orientated.

I know I should just let him be wrong about me and allow him this interpretation but it bothers me that he thinks I’m complaining about being a mother.

Here’s my model:

C: husband says I complain. Husband says he has never complained about his kids
T: he doesn’t understand and he can’t help anyway
F: defeated
A: just keep dealing with the day to day and don’t seem a solution
R: husband doesn’t help and no solutions are found

I need a new thought.

It’s okay that he doesn’t understand. I can find a solution on my own?

My problem is I really want him to understand that I’m not complaining.