Conditional decisions


I have a question about decision making.

Sometimes I make decisions that go like “If x happens, then I will do y.”

This is showing up for my husband and I as we plan some time with his family this summer.

We made a decision to not stay in the same vacation rental as other family members. We’re going to have our own space.

We have a wedding one night, with some family time being offered to us the following morning with a breakfast at the rental other family members are staying at.

My husband and I talked about it, and we both ended at, “We’ll see how everyone is behaving at the wedding, and from there we’ll decide if we want to spend time with family the next morning.”

That seems reasonable to me, and my husband and I are on the same page. I’m just curious about making decisions based on other people’s behavior.

His family tends to be unpredictable when it comes to emotions and conflict. They’re either having an amazing bonding experience, or they’re in conflict with each other. There’s just a lot of drama coming from different family members, and we’ve decided we no longer want to participate in the times when different family members are creating a lot of drama. We’d rather just be together the two of us enjoying our time together.

I’m just curious about anything I might be missing here.