Consulting with my mom about personal issue or not


Hi,

My mom and I have always been close and been able to communicate with each other.

I struggle with whether I should talk to her about a personal issue or not.

C Tell mom about personal issue
T She is too old and fragile to get such news, it will cause her more worries than necessary.
F Sad
A Pretend all is well.
R Protecting her by not telling her

C Tell mom about personal issue
T She is old and fragile to get such news, but she will be ok and can open up door for communication.
F Happy (But question if this is selfish of me)
A
R

I think by not telling her I will protect her but I also think that if I do not tell her both her and me are missing out on opening a communication that can be good for both of us. How can I proceed in my thought on this that is fair to her. I do think if I had a daughter I would like her to come to me and say what is bothering her.