Creating a Feeling of Connection With Family

Hi, I understand that feeling connected to others is only my thoughts about them. Being conditioned to believe that the feeling of connection is based on how others act, it is difficult to start practicing different thoughts about my family to create the feeling for myself. My mind keeps going to how they act toward me, or exclude me from things, or how they don’t share their feelings, or ask about me. I don’t like feeling this angst toward them.

What are some general thoughts I could start with to create a different experience for myself, without needing something from them? Maybe I still need to understand this. I think I have tunnel vision LOL.

Thank you.