Hello! 🙂
In Peer coaching today:
The client’s intentional feeling she wanted to create was respect.

Her unintentional model was:
C Husband said: “Mom will probably want to have Christmas, as usual, this year.”
T, It will be my fault in their (extended family’s) minds no matter what.
F Resigned
A check out in my interactions with husband, surface-level interactions with the family, avoiding talking to my husband regarding the family gathering, don’t get involved in family discussions at the party, thinking about the extended family’s thoughts about me, analyzing their models, making assumptions
R I don’t feel part of the family and feel at fault for creating that.

Intentional Model:
C Husband said: “Mom will probably want to have Christmas, as usual, this year.”
T ____________
F respected/ validated/ heard
A
R

The client identified wanting to create an intentional feeling of respect from her husband. This threw me off during the peer coaching session. As my thoughts went to respect, what thoughts can she think to make her husband respect her?
As I thought it through in the session, I showed her how her husband’s respect for her is a feeling he creates with his thoughts. She can create a feeling of respect for herself with her thoughts.

Is this the right line of logic for the feeling of respect? She said respect, validated, heard.
I want to make sure that I have understood this properly. Thank you so much! 🙂