My brain just exploded and I need to check my understanding. We don’t try to change the C but it’s okay to work towards a result (which would eventually create a new C) so do those models look like this?

(Trying to change the C)
C: my job
T: my job should be different
F: frustrated
A: blame my job, get angry at colleagues, blame projects, blame myself, try to change people, try to control,
R: I am stuck in my job and make it a miserable experience

(Changing the R)
C: my job
T: i could be happy here and I want to do something else
F: desire
A: consider what i might want to do
R: opening to doing something else

C: my job
T: I’m committed to doing whatever it takes to get a new job that pays $x+
F: committed
A: search, apply, do my self-coaching on doubt, whatever it takes
R: I have a new job making $x

Is this still considered trying to change the C? We can’t change the C because it comes before the T. Just like we can’t buffer to feel good because the F comes before the buffering activity. That’s why it’s false pleasure. It’s pleasure over top of unwanted emotion. When we try to change the C, we are arguing with reality? It’s like trying to change it by resisting it with thought – it should be different, people should be different, etc etc. Do I understand it correctly?