I wasn’t doing so well with my commitment not to snack after dinner in the last days. So I challenged myself today, not to snack after dinner. And I didn’t want to do it by resisting my urge, but by allowing it and experiencing what comes up for me.

I found two different thoughts/models for this:

Model 1 unintentional
C plan not to snack after dinner
T But I’m wasting the food in my fridge!
F outraged
A rebel, eat everything
R I’m wasting myself by not following through on my plan

Model 1 intentional
C plan not to snack after dinner
T I have other options to use the food in my fridge than eating it
F self-confident
A give food to colleagues at work, donate it, freeze if possible
R didn’t eat/snack

Model 2 unintentional
C plan to allow the urge and experience what comes up
T It will be just too hard to cope with the urge.
F threatened
A escape the threat, do not allow the urge, snack instead
R didn’t experience, didn’t learn how to cope with the urge

Model 2 unintentional
C plan to allow the urge and experience what comes up
T I’m capable of feeling any emotion (bridge: humans are capable of that – and I’m a human, too)
F self-confident
A allow emotion, sit with it, do not buffer by snacking
R gained trust that I can handle the emotion that comes up

Can you please give feedback on my models?

Learnings: I felt the urge, but it was a matter of seconds. I didn’t resist it, I think. It was actually okay to sit with it. I guess my commitment to do the dare was compelling enough.

Thank you!