Dating + SCS

I am dating a little bit and I am having a hard time with what I am being taught here with thought work and all the “rules” the world tells you when dating. How do I know what is right or what can be unlearned?

Rules like: “Don’t give him more than he deserves, only give as much as he gives” and “If he is not doing “a,b,c” he is not that into you.”

None of that feels true anymore now that I have been in this program, but how do I still date smart and protect myself while learning new ways of thinking?