Thank you for your response to my question. I have asked myself the questions you asked me to and am much clearer now about how I feel. Thank you.

There are a couple of things I am unsure of. You did ask me, ” Ask yourself why it’s a problem for you if she’s crying and upset. Is it a problem that he’s 12 years older than her? Is it an issue that he’s in another country? What are your beliefs about him just coming out of a long term relationship?” Its not a “problem” for me if she is crying, it’s actually a fact, as she is crying and upset? No, its not a problem re: age and I have worked through that. And no issue if he’s in another country or had just come out of a long term relationship. I thought I was giving you the facts. And these are some of the things she has raised with me. She has told me she feels awful, upset, confused. And wants to know why it is happening to her. She wants to know how she can feel better.
Thanks so much