daydreaming/ attraction

My husband and I recently split up.

I have since been talking to someone online, we have a mutual friend, but technically we don’t know each other.

I’m attracted to his attitude. I like that he is driven and runs his own business, and we have a lot in common.  He’s also funny and seems kind, but, I don’t think I’m physically attracted to him.

I want to be, but I don’t know if i find him attractive.

I’ve only seen a couple of pictures.

Does this make me really shallow if I like his personality, yet if he’s not hot, I’m not interested? I feel some shame around this.

Also, I’m finding myself daydreaming about meeting with him. It’s such a distraction, I’m not getting any work done. I do this every time I start messaging someone that I like. Thinking about them takes over my brain and I buffer, obsess, and don’t push my business.

I’m feeling quite stuck.