I just realized after doing quite a few Models, that I am quite an angry person and most of my anger is directed at my husband!
It has been rather “scary” to see myself and have to admit that I am angry and controlling. As I see “Mrs. Nasty” come out – I don’t like her. Fine to do Models after the fact and see how I could have handled it, but how do I deal with anger in the moment it is happening? It seems to be such an automatic reaction.

New Remote Control for TV and I am trying to figure something out.

C: Husband says: Can I try it?
T: I hate it when he does not give me a chance to figure it out.
F: Incompetent, angry
A: I just give it to him to get him off my back
R: I don’t get to figure it out.

C: Husband says: Can I try it?
T: I wish he would give me some more time to figure it out.
F: Capable
A: Tell him I would like to be given the opportunity to have some more time to figure it out myself
R: I have communicated my feelings and I did not get angry.