Dealing With Controlling Family

My family is very controlling, there are a lot of manuals that everyone has for each other, there are rules for everything and breaking those rules has very unpleasant consequences. bringing unapproved people over will have consequences. im finding it difficult to comply with the rules and not create mind drama. I understand that there are solutions to this but right now in this covid period it is difficult to have wiggle room or get my own space or have autonomy. I usually allow everyone to just be who they are and work on myself, but there are aspects where the attempt to control me is wearing me down and making me very angry and frustrated