Death of a child

I just got off the call. I have a question relating to what you discussed with MJ. My nephew died suddenly at 36, the day before Thanksgiving. I don’t know how to support her because she is convinced she can’t go on, there is no death worse than the death of a child, all the things society has said for millennia. I have recommend therapy, grief coaching, support group and she won’t do any of it. I truly want to be a support but I don’t feel I have much to offer. I don’t have children so I’m told I have no idea what it feels like. I don’t, that’s true. I believe that mental health and hygiene are mandatory and I find it confusing that it appears that she does not want to feel better.

Lately I avoid talking to her because she has a victim mentality that doesn’t serve her but when I state this she shuts down. I don’t say she is a victim but I try to assist her in reframing and being more positive but it doesn’t seem to land. If she were an actual client I don’t know what I’d do.

I appreciate your insight.

Mary Jo