“Designated problem”

I just read about the concept of a “designated problem”, that pet problem that we use as distraction from worse ones, and think “If I could only fix this one thing, I’d be so happy!”

I definitely have this with trying to control my eating and my (normal) weight.

I wonder what you’d recommend to loosen one’s grip on a designated problem? I feel it somehow relates to your “problems are forever” podcast (which I loved) but I can’t quite connect the dots in a way that’s actionable.

Thank you!