I have discovered that my whole life, when someone I care about is angry or upset with me I have a massive desire to firstly understand the intricate details of why they are angry/upset with me and then fix it. I think it’s a classic people pleasing trait, wanting everyone to be happy with me all of the time. Since joining scholars I have learned that someone else’s feelings about me are about them and now I just let them be angry or upset and let them work it out for themselves which frees up a whole lot of my time and thinking space and is extremely liberating!