Dismantling the thought: My life is a waste.


I am looking for feedback on these models. The feeling “ashamed” in my unintentional model is so strong. I know it comes from my interpretation of my past year. I am curious if there are any questions I can ask to question the thought generating the feeling. Thanks!

Unintentional Model:
C: We were asked to “reflect on your business this past year, and goals for the upcoming year,” for our next meeting.
T: “My life is a waste of no accomplishments this past year”
F: Ashamed
A: Internal: Hate on myself, focus on how my finances are dwindling and still single, confused about business and have no offers out.
External: Lay in bed, watch YouTube videos, tell friends how much I’ve failed this year, don’t work on my business, don’t create a winter offering.
R : I stay stuck. I invalidate the actions I have done and do not allow myself to feel successful or accomplish success.

Intentional Model:
C: We were asked to “reflect on your business this past year, and goals for the upcoming year,” for our next meeting.
T: “I have accomplished so much this year”
F: Proud
A: Write a list of EVERYTHING I accomplished this year related to my business, family, Covid, moving to a new state, friends, etc. Have compassion for where I am and where I wish to be, look at what I have learned this past year, celebrate myself, write a winter offering knowing it is a process and clatity comes by doing.
R: I allow myself to feel successful in the present(versus in the future when my business is “figured out”), and keep taking steps forward.