Disrespect


I have a relationship issue with my mom where almost every interaction results in me getting upset and crying. I’ve created an unintentional model here, but I’m struggling with completing the intentional model:

Unintentional Model:
C: Mom says “don’t expect me to leave you anything” when I did not ask for anything during that interaction.
T: WTF. There she goes again being rude and disrespectful to me.
F: WTF!
A: Spinning in how can she be so mean again. Going through her many past similar behaviors. Crying and stuck in being upset.
R: Avoid interaction.

Intentional Model:
C: Mom says “don’t expect me to leave you anything” when I did not ask for anything during that interaction.
T: She looks for evidence to dislike me because she doesn’t have the capacity to love her own child (but has the capacity to love my brother – a clear favorite out of 3 from past and continued preferential behaviors?)
F: Neutral (acceptance?)
A: ?
R: I don’t get upset with every interaction (or just stop interacting?)