Do both of these models make sense to have same result?

I feel like the result I’m going to lately is “strain on my relationship”

C: Husband is cleaning the kitchen
T: why isn’t he helping me upstairs get kiddos to bed before starting that?
F: annoyed/ my way is better
A: I sound annoyed and complain
R: strain on our relationship

C: Sister called and texted 5x today
T: she calls me all the time
F: irritated
A: breathe heavy/ snap at her
R: strain on relationship