A friend of mine recently left me a message and asked why I hadn’t asked her how she was in a while. She wanted to know if I see her as just a superficial friend or whether I cared about her. I messaged her back and explained that there was no particular reason I wasn’t in touch. But because she hasn’t responded to that message at all I am wondering if I said something that bothered or upset her and it gives me a negative feeling in my stomach.
I have some other friends I’m not sure I want to be that close with. I question whether I want to be friends but then I don’t have an answer. To be honest I am wondering if I am just people pleasing, because that friend I spoke about in the beginning I actually don’t see her as a close friend. I don’t know why I feel the need to be liked by everyone. I don’t understand why it bothers me that she hasn’t messaged me when this friendship is not actually that important to me. So I think I just want to be liked and that is people pleasing- what can I do about that?