Don’t want to go to Europe

My best friend has lived in Europe for several years now and is really hurt that we have not visited. This is for several reasons but mostly I just don’t want to go. I have no desire to leave the country, be on a tight plane forever, have to be gone a long time, and I just don’t have that kind of energy now that I am in menopause. I feel very guilty about this but am having trouble managing this in a model.

C friend lives in Europe and wants me to visit
T I don’t want to
F guilt
A make excuses, avoid talking to her, ruminate and rationalize in my mind, feel guilty when I go on other vacations
R ??

C same
T same
F neutral
A ??
R feel fine about not going