In an earlier reply to me you mentioned “double down” to get it done. (It’s an ambitious goal for April – book proposal and another chapter) When you double down do you also plan for some free time every day? I guess the thought behind the question 🙂 is that to double down or take massive action means not allowing myself free time.
Unintentional
C ambitious goal
T To meet it I have to be working every possible minute
F Overwhelmed, resentful, angry, compliant (without power) passive agressive
A procrastinate, sabotage, do less important things, blame, buffer
R work not done, or done but I’m not happy and I have created suffering for a month.
Intentional
C ambitious goal
T I can meet this goal by planning time for massive action/doubling down AND some free time to recharge and rejuvenate and allow my subconscious to work for me. I have all the time I need. Time is abundant. I am resourceful. I will get it done.
F Abundant, powerful, free, flowing, hopeful,
A Work productively during work time, play/rest/rejuvenate during free time, inspired, creative, get it done
It occurs to me that my biggest problem with the unintentional model is that I buffer (Facebook, internet, food) to avoid the pain of the thought “I have to be working every minute.” And then of course buffering makes it worse. So, diving deeper . . .
Unintentional
C want to buffer
T Once won’t hurt. A little while won’t hurt. I can catch up tomorrow/this weekend. I deserve this.
F permission to do it, self-indulgent, go unconscious
A buffer – facebook, food, internet searching, email. Waste a lot of time.
R Work not done. I feel worse about myself, Project stalled. If it doesn’t get done I will be embarrassed in front of boss and colleagues, may be negative consequences
Intentional
C want to buffer
T I am a woman who meets her commitments to herself. I can allow the urge to buffer without acting on it.
F proud, happy, hopeful, strong
A Allow the feeling. Allow the urge. Reassure the scared part of me. Do a model in order to choose loving rather than fearful thoughts. Go back to work.
R Work gets done. I create momentum. I feel proud and good. Project gets completed and I am proud in front of boss and colleagues. Positive consequences at work.
BAM!
