Drained


I have a friend that wants to talk to me more than I want to talk to her. Sometimes multiple times a day. Sometimes for hours. If I don’t answer or tell her I’m busy, she becomes paranoid something is “wrong.” I was direct and told her I love her but can’t give her the amount of time she wants from me. I explained it’s because I’m honoring my calendar to accomplish my goals. She accused me of being a bad friend, says I’m not there for her like she is for me and then called others to talk about me, then text me that those people agree. I don’t believe those things are true, I think it’s her projecting. I also feel like she’s trying to hand me a manual for how I need to act, I must answer the phone in order to be a good friend. Am I setting boundaries wrong? By honoring myself it caused her to lash out.