Drinking Question…


Hi! so, thanks to SCS and following the program, learning about controlling my thoughts, etc, I have been able to quit drinking! It’s been almost 5 months and I’m doing pretty great!! My husband and I were both problem drinkers, and after I quit, his drinking got worse and really put a strain on our family dealing with it all. We fought a lot, i didn’t understand why he couldn’t/wouldn’t quit with me, etc etc. We have 2 children and I didn’t want them to grow up in a household with heavy drinking. I really struggled with keeping his drinking neutral and letting him live his life like he wanted, since it seemed like our kids seeing and being around him so drunk was actually really negative for them. So, about 2 months ago he also decided to quit. And that external event actually did cause me much happiness. But, now he wants to start drinking again, thinking he can control it. And i see that putting my happiness on someone elses actions is a really variable/unsure thing!! I am trying to use the model to keep that circumstance neutral, allow him to live his life like he wants to, love him so much that if he wants to drink then i want him to…but I am so fearful it will end up like it was (him overdrinking, getting really drunk, passing out, etc etc). How can I manage my mind, keep this neutral, and want the best environment for my children?