My family members are all generating a lot of drama. My 16-year-old son is angry at his stepfather (my husband) and moved out. My 13-year-old daughter is enraged at me for saying no to her working in a restaurant known for sexy waitresses/hostesses. My husband is regularly talking about his suicidal thoughts related to his chronic health problems. I feel like an emotional punching bag. In the next two months, I have a contract that in the past has provided most of my income for the year, and also in the past, I have procrastinated and buffered a lot instead of working consistently on my contract.

UM#1
C family
T Everyone’s drama is my problem
F drained
A people please, active listen, make excuses for them, buffer, procrastinate, ruminate; spin in confusion, talk to friends about situations, “walk on eggshells”, “wait for the other shoe to drop”, don’t take massive action on my contract, don’t follow my work schedule, don’t do enough self-care, think about how to fix situations, make my life less important
R I make everyone’s drama my problem

IM#1
C family
T I can be loving and detached at the same time {this is hard to believe, could use a ladder thought here}
F calm {started here}
A take massive action on my contract, follow my work schedule, do enough self-care, active listen during family time, ask if I can help during family time, don’t try to help when the answer is “no”, allow urges to buffer, don’t procrastinate
R I show up in a loving way towards myself and others

UM#2
C family
T I can’t work when everyone has drama going on
F anxious
A people please, active listen, make excuses for them, buffer, procrastinate, ruminate; spin in confusion, talk to friends about situations, “walk on eggshells”, “wait for the other shoe to drop”, don’t take massive action on my contract, don’t follow my work schedule, don’t do enough self-care, think about how to fix situations, make my life less important
R I don’t work enough

IM#2
C family
T I’m learning how to work when family members have big feelings {reaching for a ladder thought…}
F productive
A take massive action on my contract, follow my work schedule, do enough self-care, active listen during family time, ask if I can help during family time, don’t try to help when the answer is “no”, allow urges to buffer, don’t procrastinate {started here}
R I show up in a loving way towards myself and others

UM#3
C family
T I feel like an emotional punching bag
F traumatized {is that a feeling?}
A people please, active listen, make excuses for them, buffer, procrastinate, ruminate; spin in confusion, talk to friends about situations, “walk on eggshells”, “wait for the other shoe to drop”, don’t take massive action on my contract, don’t follow my work schedule, don’t do enough self-care, think about how to fix situations, make my life less important
R I don’t protect myself

IM#3
C family
T It’s safe to let others have big feelings {need a ladder thought here}
F safe {started here}
A take massive action on my contract, follow my work schedule, do enough self-care, active listen during family time, ask if I can help during family time, don’t try to help when the answer is “no”, allow urges to buffer, don’t procrastinate
R I keep myself safe

Thanks in advance for any input you can offer on my models.