Where is the line between when you need to let go of expectations of others so you don’t hurt yourself by having a manual for how you want them to behave – and when you should have expectations as it is ok to have expectations of people? I know in having boundaries – you can have and set expectations and express them and then respond based on if the expectation was met or not — but how can tell when, having an expectation is an acceptable thing and as people we have expectations of those around us and when we need to learn how to love someone without expectations? I feel like I have expectations in setting boundaries but I have to at the same time not have them in order to love someone unconditionally – specifically if having an expectation of them, which they don’t meet, has me reacting in a way that places blame on them and paints myself as a victim…?