Explaining how C is Neutral

Hi Brooke,

OMGosh, I’m really enjoying Scholars. My awareness of my own BS has skyrocketed! Loving it!

I was listening to your Q&A podcast from last month’s assignment and heard you say that you have looked for ways to explain the concept of C being neutral.

I remember the example you once gave doing a sample model around the Las Vegas shootings and how people argued that it was bad, how could it be anything but bad, it couldn’t possibly be good – as if good and bad are the only two possibilities. And I guess for some in our very polarized society they are.

Even though we use the words good and bad to describe how we feel they’re really not emotions, I think they’re more judgments. At this point I started to riff on ways to understand and I would appreciate your feedback.

I decided I’d only use the real emotional feeling words: mad, glad, sad, scared, etc.

C – Las Vegas Shooting
T – It’s horrible that innocent people died needlessly doing something they loved
F – Sadness
A – Stop listening to country music because of the sad memories
R – Miss out on doing something I used to love

C – Las Vegas Shooting
T – When the he** are they going to pass gun control legislation?
F – Anger
A – Write, call, email politicians, sign petitions, run for office
R – Become an active participant in changing what I think ought to be changed

C – Las Vegas Shooting
T – OMG, my child might have been there. First movie theatres and now outdoor concerts, no place is safe!
F – Fear
A – Never let my child go anyplace with a crowd. Ever.
R – Emotionally cripple my child in addition to destroying whatever good relationship we might have had

To your point, the fact that different people can have different thoughts about the same circumstance is what makes it neutral, and none of these thoughts is particularly ‘good’ (vs. ‘bad’) they are all, simply, different.